“Can you hear us?  We can’t hear you?”

I’m in the kitchen, surrounded by my family, they aren’t all there in person. I’ve propped the laptop up at the other end of the table so that I can see my brother holding his baby up to the camera and my parents who are struggling with the mute button. “Yes I can hear you, can you hear me?”  Even in the depths of lockdown isolation, my happiest moments were when we could connect online through the modern wonder of Zoom calls. 

Johann Hari once said, “the opposite of addiction is connection”, he is perhaps a controversial figure, but looking beyond that, he is onto something important and in his book, Lost Connections he explores the real causes of depression.  His argument is that one of the causes of depression and anxiety is our lack of connection in our society, and that it is one way that we can feel better is to connect more, and find our role within a community. 

It is our connections with others that nourish us and when we feel a part of something, we have a role and we serve a community.

We are needed. 

I have to say I agree with this, and it’s my belief that as human beings, we are wired for connection, to be with others and to live in communities.  It’s when we are strong, we are protected and we are safe. It means sometimes doing what is best for the community rather than ourselves, helping others and putting our selfishness aside. 

Our tendency to live increasingly alone, despite our many attempts to create online communities and social media, the epidemic of loneliness is all around us, and it’s damaging us.  Of course I understand why the lockdown was needed, and we were in an extreme situation with the epidemic but the impact on our collective mental health and that of our children is evident and plain to see. I can’t help but feel that working from home won’t be helping this either, some of the interactions that we were forced to do at work, were actually enriching us and saving us from depression and loneliness, giving us a sense of community and of purpose.

I can work with you to discover what’s holding you back, to transform your restricting beliefs, helping you move forward with your true life purpose.

I’m delighted to have joined a new community of local people who are interested in coming together to offer wellbeing to the people of Norfolk. Feel Good Norfolk, is a collective of various wellness therapies, yoga and other aspects which all promote wellbeing and recovery in Norfolk.  Being part of a group like this makes me feel that I’m not in isolation, and we can share best practice, as well as a gossip and have a laugh over a herbal tea.  It’s nourishing our souls as well as working collectively. I’m all for it. 

I was really pleased to be able to share my story of why I swapped my law career to become a hypnotherapist recently in the Eastern Daily Press here in Norwich. Hopefully this inspires others to look at their current career and lifestyle and if change is needed, now maybe the time. You can read the digital version here.

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